The Boundary Boogie

There are various times during our childrens growing years where they press the boundaries...but never more than in the teenage years. I call this the boundary dance. Picture that mime in the box as he tries to find his way out. Every square inch...bottom and ceiling, walls.. they search. Loop holes, windows, unexpressed rules...anything for a way out!

What usually happens is we just get worn down. We get to the place where we say "JUST GO" "I DONT CARE" "DONT BLAME ME" "ASK YOUR FATHER" "______________________"!!!

Parents...be ready when you see your child preparing for this dance. IT is usually accompanied by whining,dissatisfaction, irritability, or perhaps, anger.
Sometimes it presents itself as panic, or they will push at the most inopportune times. There is really no good time but again be ready. Be rested...watch for the signs. Explain AHEAD OF TIME THE RULES AND BOUNDARIES. Stay calm and dont let them wear you down!! Stand your ground.
A friend was over watching a movie...at 10pm she received a call from her teen.."mom, can we go over to _____ for a sleep over?" The mom had not met the parents. Again it was 10 at nite. (their lack of planning is not your problem) and no NOT EVERYONE is going!!!
Refuse guilt say no to giving in an keep your ground! Its mandatory!
So while your kids dance you remain still and constant.

Blessings
Marnie

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