Parenting changes over the years ...but it doesn't!!!
When the babes are small they need consistent Mom time.. The rules and expectations need to be clear and spoken directly into those little eyes.....having them repeat it back helps also.
It is mandatory that you remain calm. What is it that sends us into that zone anyway? We all know that once that little human breathed its first breath in this world our lives would never be the same.....so why do we fight it so hard and get so irritated that our time is now not our own!
You're calm and you have communicated.... but what have you communicated? Think through what you will and will not put up with. Is it important to you that your child responds on your first
communication? Do you care if he/she gets up 3-5 times after he is put to bed? Do you really want to put up with whining? Temper tantrums? Bullying? Whats it like with your little ones in public...do you dread it...?
Set your boundaries in your own thinking first.... what is important to you??
It is best if you and your husband or perhaps daycare provider is on the same page for discipline....It is much less confusing to a child to know everyone in his life is expecting the same behavior.
Once you get underway remember praise praise praise
dont let your guard down and keep rested!
It is very important for your child to rest in the afternoon. Even if it is just a quiet time. After lunch is the perfect time to expect 1-2 hours of peace. Remember as tempting as it is dont let the child sleep too late in the afternoon or he/she will be up later in the evening. I have never regretted having my little ones in for the nite at 7:30 clean, read to and looking forward to a new day. Then I could do a few uninterrupted tasks.... from a chore to watching a TV show or even having a friend in or perhaps running to Walmart while your hubby watches the game....he wont mind if the kids are asleep!
Well thats alot for tonite....I'll write more on the other end of the spectrum another time
PS if any of this is helpful please let me know...if you would like to be added or deleted from this kind of mailing tell me and if you have personal questions dont hesitate to call me at 603-275-4904
Blessings!
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