."sometimes when meeting new people she gets shy and nervous and won't make eye contact. If someone says "Nice to meet you" or "how are you?" she will look away and respond or respond as she is walking away. I tell her all the time to look at them in the eye or wait to walk away until she responds so they know she is acknowledging them but it doesn't seem to help. Is this something I will just have to keep reminding her of and hope that it will change? I just feel like she looks rude even though I know she is just feeling awkward sometimes."
Personally, I believe that shyness should be addressed and can be helped with practice. Explain to her why you think it is important and that it is something that you want her to learn. This should not be an option. (this needs to be an intentional conversation)
Perhaps you can make a game of it. Act it out thru out the week. Practice with some of her friends and your friends. Play act. Your friend sticks out her hand and says nice to meet you Jane. Jane shakes the hand and simply says," thank you".
If someone compliments her dress she needs to learn to say thank you.
It is not too hard for her and sometimes can actually falls into the same category as not being willing to say sorry when they are wrong.
Rebellion looks different at different ages!
It is a process of learning.
Next she needs to be the initiator. "Hello, Mrs. Smith, How are you today?"
Get the first part down pat first and then you can start to work on this second area.
Like with anything else, you can reward or discipline as the need be. Early bed time would be good in this case...or just making her stay by your side if she does not respond appropriately.
Parenting is not for the lazy by any means! Good work Mom!
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